One of the things in this world that is even easier to spread than soft butter is dirty gossip! It seems that people love to hear the bad, evil, sick, pathetic, conniving and harmful things about someone a lot more than they want to hear the good things about them. And if there isn’t anything bad to spread, then they’ll make it up and spread that as long as there’s an audience willing to listen. But as Christians, we need to be like Apostle Paul and say, “The gossip stops with me!”
So many lives have been ruined by gossip! Proverbs 16:28 says, “A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends.” People love to hear those sinister things about their so-called friends or their neighbors—or even worse, family members—and get the real scoop on the things that are going on. But are they really “going on” or are they just going on in the head of the gossiper?
Rumors and gossip are most often started and carried on by people who have the same faults as the one they’re gossiping about. Others have even worse habits that they don’t want anyone else to know about. And so, what better way to take the attention off of oneself than to destroy the reputation of someone else!
We’re told in John 10:10 that the devil wants only to steal from us, kill us and destroy us and he’s doing it well because so many people think like he does and follow his cue. They’ll argue that they’re not gossiping, but they are! So the devil gets people to do his dirty work and then gets others to pass it on without realizing the harm they’re doing. When a person willfully listens to gossip, they are just as guilty as the gossiper. Why? Because they have allowed the devil’s charade to keep going on. They have agreed to listen and haven’t even told the person that it’s a wrong thing to do—mainly because they like to hear gossip, but of course, will only pass it on only to select friends.
When people have an ought against other people and they can’t do to them what they’d really like to, there is no easier way to hurt them than to start “casual gossip” about them. And because people have “itching ears”, they are only too eager to listen and pass it on. Before long, the original words of gossip have become deadly lies that destroy.
Gossip puts out flags against people, and innocent victims are looked down on, made fun of and even denied the right to be happy because some nasty, rebellious and discontent person somewhere gets a high out of destroying others. This is very wrong and these people need to realize that what goes around DOES come around because the Bible tells us that we reap what we sow! Maybe gossipers will get away with their verbal destruction today, but one day it will come back and bite them at the very worst possible time because God does avenge His children.
- Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.—Romans 12:19NKJV
When people try to get us involved with gossip, we need to stop them right away. We need to tell them that they are repeating things they don’t even know is true. We need to stop rumors and gossip when it comes to us and we need to make it known that we will not participate.
There are social media sites where even Christians get into heated discussions about situations, people and celebrities, and they argue their view point based solely on gossip, on what they’ve heard or read; not on facts. Well, unless you are the person being discussed and unless you know the heart of the person—which is highly unlikely because God said that only HE knows the heart of man—then what those people would be doing is spreading lies! And in case you’re not sure, Exodus 20:16 says, “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.” And spreading rumors of gossip are just that, false witnesses or lies.
Instead of gossiping about others, we should be praying for them. Instead of judging and condemning others through gossip, we should be interceding for their issues. Instead of passing along lies that destroy, we should be sharing the gospel that gives life!
- Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.—Philippians 4:8
We learn in Revelation 21:8 that liars will have their place in the Lake of Fire with their father, the devil. But to those who pray for others, who help them and don’t judge or condemn them but instead, will love them as Jesus loves them and will witness God’s love to them, Jesus says, “Well done, my good and faithful servant!”
As Christians, let’s stop the gossip when it comes to us and let’s turn the situation around so that God is glorified. How wonderful it will be when we receive the Crown of Rejoicing that we can lay down at the feet of Christ one day.