Many people suffer from disabilities and some don’t realize that their hidden anguish keeps them in a state of resentment. They take great offense to remarks or suggestions given to them as they try to cover the pain and embarrassment of needing help. They don’t see someone offering their hand as a deed of kindness, but as an act of ridicule. And they see their disability as a punishment or test from God and they don’t feel His divine presence. But He is there, and yet, the anguish caused by their disability steals their joy and their ability to see Him!
It’s often easy for those who are handicapped to develop an attitude of resentment toward others because they are not able to do the things that they want to do for themselves. Maybe it’s a physical disability, a financial hardship or a hurt from the past that has left them broken. They are disappointed in themselves and feel like a complete failure because they cannot be independent. So when someone comes to them and wants to help, they see it as another attack against their already deplored ego. Their heart becomes colder as their need to be self-sufficient—driven by their pride—grows stronger. They ignore their own cry for help and let their anger rule.
- A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit.—Proverbs 29:23
It’s an attitude that will keep them from God and not allow them to see His goodness through others. It steals their joy and separates them from their Heavenly Father who wants to help them. Sometimes the issues that torment bring them shame and makes them feel as if they’re not worthy to be helped, or on the flip side, they’re angry that they have been afflicted and see the help of others as pity—and this adds to their humiliation. They can’t see—or don’t want to see—that God is sending people to help them. They are blinded to their own situation; a tactic of the devil that slowly kills their joy and makes them feel unwanted.
- The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.—John 10:10
But whether we’re healthy or handicapped, God loves us the same and it’s really us who withdraws from Him. We take our eyes off of the Lord and focus on ourselves and we become alone in our torment. And because we let our sorrows rule, we miss out on the things that God has for us. It’s so important for us to not give in and give the devil glory by accepting defeat and getting angry. We need to pray about it. We need to seek God and find out why He has allowed this, and what He wants us to do about it.
- And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.—Romans 8:28
When we’re afflicted with an issue that can literally change our life, we need to come to God and ask Him why. We need to come with an open heart that is willing to listen AND to obey. We need to ask Him to forgive us for our anger and hostility toward Him and toward our brethren and trust Him to help us instead of allowing ourselves to become angry.
Sometimes God has allowed our situation because He wants to pull us away from the world that we’ve been slowly drifting back into. Sometimes He has a job for us to do and this is the only way that He’s been able to get our attention. Regardless of the reason, we need to seek God with a humble heart. We need to realize that nothing is impossible to God and He can make our situation right in a second, but we need to trust Him. And we need to take our eyes off of what we can’t do on our own, and put them onto God who will give us the strength to move mountains.
- Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.—Proverbs 3:5
The ones who are willing to help and who offer their love are not perfect, either. Many of them are enduring their own hardships and sorrows, but they have learned to give them to God so they can be a blessing to others. We need to see the goodness in people and thank God that He has sent them out to help those in need, and not allow the devil to steal the joy of the Lord from us or from them. And we need to ignore those who don’t treat us well because they aren’t from God and will have to answer to Him one day for their actions.
- Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.—Philippians 4:8
Our physical disability may never leave us, but our attitude and our love for God will be changed when we surrender it all to Him. We will no longer be angry or critical towards others because we’ll be free from the hurts that have tormented us and that have stopped us from loving them. Our lives will become a great witness and we may have a more significant impact on others than we thought possible because of our disability, and it will all be to the glory of God.
- Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.—Matthew 5:8
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